Style evolves as our life does but is it true that style turns sloppy (or even secondary) once you become married? Erzulliesta Carol Perla-Cervantes reports back, as she embraces the married life and a whole new outlook about herself and her wardrobe.
#1 Let’s jump to it. How did you meet your husband and how is family life so far?
I met my husband at work. I thought he was a kleptomaniac at first –he was starting too much on my iPhone. I pocketed it, but we both knew the awkward silence meant that I was accusing him of being a thief (haha).
I used to just let life happen — I was easy-go-lucky and very laid back. I make time to do other things or constantly find new things to do. I didn’t sleep a lot, I partied way too much!
Nowadays I’m trying to stretch my time for the kids. Also, I always have to consider my partner’s take on most of my decisions –be it a small or a big one. And when you’re single and you go missing for 12 hours it doesn’t generate a manhunt.
#2 With that in mind, did it affect your personal style as an Erzulliesta?
Before I was married, I was always obsessed with the gypsy/bohemian styles. I wore bandanas, hoop earrings, the works. But really I wore just about anything. Although my style varies almost every day I believe my style is mostly “loud and proud” to be plus size. I love bold prints and colors. Probably the reason I never wear gray! Ha ha ha!
Now that I am married, more or less I’ve toned down a bit. I don’t wear super plunge necklines a lot anymore since bending over would be too much work in keeping my ta-tas exposure-free haha! I don’t wear bandanas and rose cabbage accents on my neck and I still love colors. I wear gray now — just gray pants. I feel like my style is kind of Kate Winslet’s. She always goes for the bold colors you know? She rarely wears gray on the red carpet!
#3 There is now a cultural obsession for the “hot mama” status. Thoughts?
Do not succumb to the “instant hot mama” pressure. Since I gave birth I’ve been at least 30 pounds heavier, and it doesn’t mean I just let myself go. I exercise and eat healthier –more than I did 10 years ago. It took time to develop your baby. Your body needs to rest up a bit too after birth.
Relax. Being “hot” isn’t everything. If your husband loves you dearly, he will think you’re not only hot, but you’re a goddamn rock star for carrying that baby for 9 months!
For me, I think I like looking a certain way. If it inevitably gears toward “hot momma” territory, who cares? I like making an effort to look my best, and it boosts my happy hormones like crazy
#4 Do you think that there is such a thing as “mom style”?
This is tricky. I think there is — and usually it means that it’s not a very flattering/fashionable style! What comes to mind are dowdy clothes and no makeup and … looking very homely. I feel it’s unfair that moms get that kind of stereotype. Choosing comfort over style isn’t solely reserved for parents!
But then again you see Jennifer Lopez, Angelina Jolie, they’re moms -much older moms and they still wear sexy little things! I don’t think there should be a limitation to what moms wear. Although I think moms should be more careful in choosing clothes and consider first the kind of occasion they’re going to and if they have their kids with them.
#5 So how do you keep your personal style still intact in this new phase of your life?
I keep up by browsing Instagram, and anything else the Internet or magazines can offer. I’m an avid reader of anything that comes my way –from utility bills to prescriptions and magazines and really wonderful novels like Harry Potter. Just reading, and browsing. Oh, this trove of information straight to my phone!
#6 Parting words about being a stylish mom?
I think the greatest challenge in being one is to encourage other moms to do the same. It doesn’t take a lot to be comfortable with a certain style, or find a style that suits you best. Start with the current pieces that you have and try to mix and match.
Being a stylish mom also creates a positive energy for me. I don’t want life to just pass me by. I want to see my kids grow up, see my friends, go to work, pursue my hobbies and grow old with my husband. And what’s wrong with having a family life while wearing a leopard print dress and red stilettos with a glass of bubbly in one hand right?